- people who don't express their emotions naturally, but always smile because they think it “kills their enemies” (there are exceptions when the “grinner” knowsthe grin will be perceived as bitchy. Or when they mock others whoact that way. In these cases they aren't hypocrites)

- people taking pride in tolerating intolerable stuff.

- over-emphasizing the aspect of“choice” and thus guilt when it comes to suicide or mental illness. "Over" means more than you would in a situation of self defense or anything where a person can feel similarly desperate.

- people making their bones jut out for pictures.

- “advice” -usually the advice tosee a shrink- as means to put someone down. people who do that that are one of the reasons why actually seeing a shrink is still regarded as shameful.

- The overuse of the words “childish”“immature” and “sick”. Everyone hushes because who wants to be immature. But apparently being adult and nornal means being emotionless and carefree about important things, and to fit exactly into the standards the media tell us to meet.

- The dismissive statement “you base your arguments on emotions and not facts”. Better to say I am against Social Darwinism because it is cruel, than "Social Darwinism is good because OOH! The economy! I know NUMBERS”

- Social Darwinism (who would have thought?)

- The overuse of the word “abuse”and its whole word family. No, if someone who is depressed and needs me to be there it is not “emotionally abusive”.
If my parents believe in me when I don't, and can't look in my head and see how pressured I feel, they are also not “abusive”.
You aren't being abused every time you feel a bit uncomfortable. There will always be situations you don't get along with or where can't fulfil someones needs or expectations.That's life.

- when people who suffered become assholes.

- people taking pride in bottling up their emotions, or fishing for compliments. I understand how they feel, I used to be that person, but think of the social consequences.

-being sick

- arrogant doctors

- schools and teachers taking away the fun in learning

- looking down on people who work hard.(E.g. at McDonalds or Walmart)

- intellectual vanity

-girls feeling special or superior for“not being a girly girl”.

- the fact that there are more toys for little girls than boys, because pink = girl. (that was at least my experience when I was shopping with a woman wo needed something for her son)

- body shaming. No matter if fat,skinny, hairy and which gender.

- jokes about rape

- and even more than that: the people who argue that the funny part about rape jokes is how people get upset. As if it was te decent population's fault.

- when someone says “free speech”or “I am against censorship, so I won't censor myself” after being criticized for saying something offensive.

- people assuming you are “playing games” or just a terrible uncaring person when you need time for yourself or simply don't want to be so close.

- people claiming (or rather bragging with how) they know “big words”

- The grammar police

- sex as a status symbol

- people who think they need to be rude to be honest

- moral lectures when someone is already doing good. “you'd do more good volunteering at a nursinghome than protesting” “if you are vegetarian you mustn't wear leather shoes, you hypocrite”

- datingish

- the movie 7 lives

- the song “song to say goodbye” by Placebo

- forced sterilization

-fur coats

- patent rights on food and medication to the disadvantage of the poor and unprivileged

- people knocking at my door because“it was on their way” or something, without calling.

- chatting online

- the winter

- the fashion police

-Every time I didn't say what I really think to avoid an argument on Xanga.

- zits

- getting my period

- homophobia

- when one earring is missing

- Cinderella stories where the “ugly”or “awkward” person gets a partner ...after a make over.

- children being labelled with several“disorders”

- bullying

- The dismissive “I pray for you”or “I hope you resolve your issues”

- atheists being offensive to religious people because they think it is funny, and ripping their faith away. I can imagine some of them standing at my grandmothers death bed and debating with her whether she should be "the problem in this world" and believe in heaven, because "it kills people".

- racism

- silencing people by labelling them ill. Not just in the blogging community.

- “the right to know where out come from” messing with other rights. I don't think it is so important. Give these people a free DNA check for illnesses and leave it at that.

- racism

- when someone leaves trash in the kitchen sink (tea bags etc )

- reckless drivers.

- that education is so expensive.

- that there is no open access to everything.

(What we need is more tests that have ahigh standard, but allow educating yourself.)

- that homeschooling children is forbidden in Germany

you know what's selfish?

when a person hurts themselves, punishes themselves, doesn't lay finger on anybody else, and then OTHER PEOPLE come along and whine: "boohoohoo stop cutting yourself" "boohoohoo my relative/friend has an eating disorder" or what the fuck ever.  Oh you poor thing your child/friend/relative is CUTTER?? How dare they be so cruel to you!!

Usually these selfish ****s say the other part is guilty of "being manipulative", because they feel their own poor feelings hurt.

Don't get me wrong.  I do see the logic in that- their feelings being affected I mean. Everything we say or do has an effect on others. If someone I love would hurt themselves I'd feel sympathy. And of course everyone has the right to talk about their thoughts, even when other people are involved. Sometimes it's hard. And there are exceptions where the 'whining' is legit...e.g. when you are 12 years old and your parents are alcoholic, but YOUR legal guardians there isn't a lot you can do. Et cetera blah blah.

 However I am obviously talking about an accusatory tone, in which people talk about and to these 'cases' more often than not. "suicide is selfish!" "this is a selfish disease!" "have you ever thought about what you DO to your parents?"
The accusations are based on the idea that these people should fucking take care of their own bullshit. Make the right choices. Also, easy to insinuate manipulativeness, when you too see yourself as the center of the universe. The other person should just stop with their behaviour, after all it "is NOT normal" and no one is entitled to do anything that is listed in the dsm- to be so socially unacceptable, embarassing and to annoy you!

...well, ok.

If you see yourself in that selfish person, I could suggest to be a little nicer to someone who evidently hurts themselves in the first place, and therefore must be feeling very stuck and desperate. However I risk being accused of being an 'enabler' or whatever dubious 'professional' word will come to your mind. 'Helpers syndrome' would be another one. At very least you will accuse me of picking sides. You think I care about them, but they shouldn't bother you with their shit by having scars and wounds, and fat or skinny bodies, or such ugly things, these evil attention seekers. (who needs human affection after all! wimps.)

I have a piece of advice for you: stop being a hypocrite. To be frank, you'll make yourself look ridiculous when you evidently can't follow your own advice and "take responsibilty for your feelings"  "talk to a professional who at least gets money for listening" "get out of the victim role" and last but not least "CHOOSE to be happy!". Guess what you have no right to tell other people what they do to their own bodies. Choose to not be so (fake) affected.
Drop the other person already- you don't care about them anyway. You only 'love' a perfect image of them that you made up in your mind. You don't love them. Don't torture them with your politically correct "I care about you" shit, only to break all your promises and make them more confused. Be honest with yourself and others: you don't give a fuck about what they feel.

...or to say it more friendly: make clear that you aren't a person to turn to, because you will not be ready to deal with them, and hope they find someone who does.

If you are in the position of the desperate self mutiliator: my honest advice is don't listen to this "reach out" BS. (well I guess there are people you can talk to but be careful) People want to play the hero without making a great effort when they say that. They will be overwhelmed, and they are self-centered so they will not just drop you, but tell you how inherently worthless you are for not complying. "you have no right to be you" "if you don't WANT (my magical 100% correct, professional, irreplacable) help ..." In the end you must help yourself anyway, so better start doing it now. I say this because I am nice.